Love language test
Answer 20 quick questions and find out your love language. Then send the link to your partner so they take it too, and compare.
What are the love languages?
The idea was popularized by counselor Gary Chapman in the 1990s: each person has a main way of feeling and showing love, and it's almost always different from their partner's. There are five: words of affirmation, quality time, gifts, acts of care and physical touch.
It isn't exact science, and it doesn't need to be. The value is in the conversation the result starts: discovering that you show love the way you'd like to receive it, not the way the other person feels it.
How this test works
There are 20 either/or questions, written by lovnote. Each language appears in 8 of them, competing twice against each of the others. Your main language is the one you chose most often; scores run from 0 to 8.
Nothing is saved: there's no sign-up, and the result exists only on your screen and in the link you choose to send.
Why does each person take it alone?
Answering together, the tendency is to pick what the other person would like to hear. Apart, each one answers what they truly feel, and the comparison at the end is honest.
That's why the link you send already opens with your result and a blank test for your partner. When you're both done, the two results appear side by side.
What to do with the result
Swap your main languages and agree on one concrete thing for the week: a note, a phone-free evening, a chore taken on. The test is the start of the conversation, not the end.
And take it again in a year. The main language shifts with the season of life: people with a new baby at home often start valuing acts of care more than any gift.
Keep both results
lovnote is a private journal for the two of you: each one's language, the question of the day and the moments you live, in a place only you can see. 7 days free, no card needed.
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How many love languages are there?
Five, in the original idea: words of affirmation, quality time, gifts, acts of care (acts of service) and physical touch. Everyone feels a bit of each; the test shows the order.
Is a tie normal?
Yes. With 20 questions, two languages can end with the same score. In that case both speak loudly to you, and both are worth looking at.
What if my language is different from my partner's?
That's the most common case, and the most useful information in the test: each person tends to show love the way they'd like to receive it. Knowing the other person's language is knowing where the effort pays off.
Is the test free? Do I need an account?
Free and no sign-up. Nothing is saved: the result stays on your screen and in the link you choose to send.
Can I retake the test?
As many times as you like. It's worth repeating now and then, because the main language changes with the season of life.